Guys, are you sick and tired of being unlucky with the ladies? Have you had enough with sitting at home on a Saturday night dateless and alone? Have you ever thought that if only you had the right tools, the right system, that your life as a frustrated chump could be so much better, so much fuller? It is time to become the Alpha Male that you have always dreamed about. The man that can walk into a room and make women ask "who is that guy?"
I was like you once. Nerdy (even though you can get away with that), awkward (even though you can get away with that as well. I wasn't popular with the ladies in high school and some of that carried on with me through college. But then I found a method that changed my life. It taught me how to stand up for myself, find my inner confidence and once this happened, everything else fell into place. I can look back at those times before the system and laugh, because know I have the tools I need to get the women I want. And the truth of the matter is, it doesn't matter your height, your weight, your looks, or your financial status. None of that matters to a woman at all.
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Friday, September 16, 2011
Getting married - what does it add to our lives?
Life as a couple - does it have anything to do with society and with the Church? Some people say: It has nothing to do with anyone but me, no one has any right to say anything about my marriage... There is some truth in this, at least in part. Marriage is first and essentially the union of a man and a woman who say yes to one another, who build a covenant together. Christ meant just this when he said: Man leaves his father and his mother and attaches himself to his wife. And they become one body.
But it is also true that all marriages have social consequences. They need to be acknowledged by society in order to function better: it is society which gives their surname to the children, and which, in certain circumstances, has the right to raise them.
In most cases, it is impossible for a couple and for a family not to have this social status, that assures its legal recognition, protects its rights and facilitates its relations with the rest of society. Besides, are not the couple and the family the basic unit of society?
It is, therefore, necessary to find a balance between the proper autonomy of the couple in the midst of all the social pressures working against their intimacy, happines and fidelity, and the necessity of social and legal recognition, which entails certain obligations.
Civil Marriage
Couples have, therefore, a true right to a social status that is not always what the state imposes at any given moment in history. There are numerous countries where marriage in church is legally valid. On the contrary, in France, for instance, the law does not regard religious marriage as legally binding. Furthermore, a religious marriage is against the law if it is not first preceded by a civil marriage before the mayor of the city or town or by his assistant.
Despite these limits, civil marriage (without a religious marriage) brings something to the couple, insofar as it is a commitment made not only by the couple themselves, but also with respect to others.
Marriage in the Church
Following Christ’s command, the Church asks baptized Catholics to marry in the Church, to say yes to each other freely and definitively. Religious marriage is called a sacrament. This means that by their yes, the man and the woman receive a special gift of God (a grace received in faith) that changes their hearts and gives them a greater capacity to love each other: the capacity to receive the other every day like a gift and to love each other faithfully beyond their individual limits. It is thus that, day after day, a community of life and love can be built.
The gift of God, in this sacrament, is a real hope for the couple. The first miracle that Jesus performed at Cana, as we are told in the Gospel (John 2:1-11), at Cana, was to renew joy in marriage. Just when the shortage of wine threatened to end the celebration too soon, Jesus changed the water into wine. This is what he proposes to us in the Sacrament of Marriage: to transform the water of our human marriage - with all its realities - into wine, the wine of the Wedding of the Lamb, so that our love endures to eternity.
But it is also true that all marriages have social consequences. They need to be acknowledged by society in order to function better: it is society which gives their surname to the children, and which, in certain circumstances, has the right to raise them.
In most cases, it is impossible for a couple and for a family not to have this social status, that assures its legal recognition, protects its rights and facilitates its relations with the rest of society. Besides, are not the couple and the family the basic unit of society?
It is, therefore, necessary to find a balance between the proper autonomy of the couple in the midst of all the social pressures working against their intimacy, happines and fidelity, and the necessity of social and legal recognition, which entails certain obligations.
Civil Marriage
Couples have, therefore, a true right to a social status that is not always what the state imposes at any given moment in history. There are numerous countries where marriage in church is legally valid. On the contrary, in France, for instance, the law does not regard religious marriage as legally binding. Furthermore, a religious marriage is against the law if it is not first preceded by a civil marriage before the mayor of the city or town or by his assistant.
Despite these limits, civil marriage (without a religious marriage) brings something to the couple, insofar as it is a commitment made not only by the couple themselves, but also with respect to others.
Marriage in the Church
Following Christ’s command, the Church asks baptized Catholics to marry in the Church, to say yes to each other freely and definitively. Religious marriage is called a sacrament. This means that by their yes, the man and the woman receive a special gift of God (a grace received in faith) that changes their hearts and gives them a greater capacity to love each other: the capacity to receive the other every day like a gift and to love each other faithfully beyond their individual limits. It is thus that, day after day, a community of life and love can be built.
The gift of God, in this sacrament, is a real hope for the couple. The first miracle that Jesus performed at Cana, as we are told in the Gospel (John 2:1-11), at Cana, was to renew joy in marriage. Just when the shortage of wine threatened to end the celebration too soon, Jesus changed the water into wine. This is what he proposes to us in the Sacrament of Marriage: to transform the water of our human marriage - with all its realities - into wine, the wine of the Wedding of the Lamb, so that our love endures to eternity.
Thursday, September 15, 2011
How can i remain faithful all my life?
The question is not whether I can remain faithful all my life when I get married, but rather whether I am determined to stay with the person I marry for life. Every day, we are called to renew the commitment we made in Church on our wedding day; to say ‘yes’ in our everyday acts. I give myself to you and I receive you. To be faithful is to grow together in this mutual gift that began the day we got married and that will flourish more and more through the years. This gift needs time to grow. It is a life project to be pursued together. It is being able to say to the other: Whatever happens I’ll be with you, in good times and in bad. It is a commitment worked at together day by day.
An example of faithfulness is the woman who lost her husband after fifty years of marriage who said: We still had so many things to say to each other! To believe in the other, to hope in him or her, to be open to him or her everyday, is the road to fidelity: a road that is at times difficult, at times demanding, but also a source of great happiness and growth.
However, this state of fidelity is not safe from temptation. Indifference kills fidelity: I don’t have time for you now, my career, my personal growth, my sports, my music....my friends come first. After all I’m free, I want to hold on to my freedom, etc. Little by little, communication fades away and each one lives for himself instead of for and with the other. Then a dissatisfaction arises and when faced with the tribulations of life, we are tempted to break our promise of fidelity.
We need to keep a guard on our heart, our eyes, our body and our language in order to preserve and protect our fidelity just as we would preserve something precious. The temptations of the world are strong: pornography, trivializing the sexual act, seeking my own pleasures, provocative fashion, movies that promote infidelity, etc. So many things can undermine our fidelity. It seems pretty brave to risk a promise of faithfulness, and only God can help us to keep it. The more we are helped by God’s love to stay open to each other, the stronger our fidelity will become.
The Sacrament of Marriage is the never-ending spring which we can draw from every day to nurture our faithfulness to each other. The love that has its source in God can win the gamble of fidelity. Remember the words Jesus addresses to each one of us: Do not be afraid, I am with you always, to the end of time. (Matthew 28:20)
An example of faithfulness is the woman who lost her husband after fifty years of marriage who said: We still had so many things to say to each other! To believe in the other, to hope in him or her, to be open to him or her everyday, is the road to fidelity: a road that is at times difficult, at times demanding, but also a source of great happiness and growth.
However, this state of fidelity is not safe from temptation. Indifference kills fidelity: I don’t have time for you now, my career, my personal growth, my sports, my music....my friends come first. After all I’m free, I want to hold on to my freedom, etc. Little by little, communication fades away and each one lives for himself instead of for and with the other. Then a dissatisfaction arises and when faced with the tribulations of life, we are tempted to break our promise of fidelity.
We need to keep a guard on our heart, our eyes, our body and our language in order to preserve and protect our fidelity just as we would preserve something precious. The temptations of the world are strong: pornography, trivializing the sexual act, seeking my own pleasures, provocative fashion, movies that promote infidelity, etc. So many things can undermine our fidelity. It seems pretty brave to risk a promise of faithfulness, and only God can help us to keep it. The more we are helped by God’s love to stay open to each other, the stronger our fidelity will become.
The Sacrament of Marriage is the never-ending spring which we can draw from every day to nurture our faithfulness to each other. The love that has its source in God can win the gamble of fidelity. Remember the words Jesus addresses to each one of us: Do not be afraid, I am with you always, to the end of time. (Matthew 28:20)
How can i remain faithful all my life?
The question is not whether I can remain faithful all my life when I get married, but rather whether I am determined to stay with the person I marry for life. Every day, we are called to renew the commitment we made in Church on our wedding day; to say ‘yes’ in our everyday acts. I give myself to you and I receive you. To be faithful is to grow together in this mutual gift that began the day we got married and that will flourish more and more through the years. This gift needs time to grow. It is a life project to be pursued together. It is being able to say to the other: Whatever happens I’ll be with you, in good times and in bad. It is a commitment worked at together day by day.
An example of faithfulness is the woman who lost her husband after fifty years of marriage who said: We still had so many things to say to each other! To believe in the other, to hope in him or her, to be open to him or her everyday, is the road to fidelity: a road that is at times difficult, at times demanding, but also a source of great happiness and growth.
However, this state of fidelity is not safe from temptation. Indifference kills fidelity: I don’t have time for you now, my career, my personal growth, my sports, my music....my friends come first. After all I’m free, I want to hold on to my freedom, etc. Little by little, communication fades away and each one lives for himself instead of for and with the other. Then a dissatisfaction arises and when faced with the tribulations of life, we are tempted to break our promise of fidelity.
We need to keep a guard on our heart, our eyes, our body and our language in order to preserve and protect our fidelity just as we would preserve something precious. The temptations of the world are strong: pornography, trivializing the sexual act, seeking my own pleasures, provocative fashion, movies that promote infidelity, etc. So many things can undermine our fidelity. It seems pretty brave to risk a promise of faithfulness, and only God can help us to keep it. The more we are helped by God’s love to stay open to each other, the stronger our fidelity will become.
The Sacrament of Marriage is the never-ending spring which we can draw from every day to nurture our faithfulness to each other. The love that has its source in God can win the gamble of fidelity. Remember the words Jesus addresses to each one of us: Do not be afraid, I am with you always, to the end of time. (Matthew 28:20)
An example of faithfulness is the woman who lost her husband after fifty years of marriage who said: We still had so many things to say to each other! To believe in the other, to hope in him or her, to be open to him or her everyday, is the road to fidelity: a road that is at times difficult, at times demanding, but also a source of great happiness and growth.
However, this state of fidelity is not safe from temptation. Indifference kills fidelity: I don’t have time for you now, my career, my personal growth, my sports, my music....my friends come first. After all I’m free, I want to hold on to my freedom, etc. Little by little, communication fades away and each one lives for himself instead of for and with the other. Then a dissatisfaction arises and when faced with the tribulations of life, we are tempted to break our promise of fidelity.
We need to keep a guard on our heart, our eyes, our body and our language in order to preserve and protect our fidelity just as we would preserve something precious. The temptations of the world are strong: pornography, trivializing the sexual act, seeking my own pleasures, provocative fashion, movies that promote infidelity, etc. So many things can undermine our fidelity. It seems pretty brave to risk a promise of faithfulness, and only God can help us to keep it. The more we are helped by God’s love to stay open to each other, the stronger our fidelity will become.
The Sacrament of Marriage is the never-ending spring which we can draw from every day to nurture our faithfulness to each other. The love that has its source in God can win the gamble of fidelity. Remember the words Jesus addresses to each one of us: Do not be afraid, I am with you always, to the end of time. (Matthew 28:20)
Is happiness only for married couples?
Marriage is not the only context in which we can fulfill our capacity to love. Friendship and the giving of ‘self’ are also precious expressions of love.
There are men and women who decide not to marry, not because they scorn or reject it but simply because they feel an exclusive call. For example, priests, monks and nuns witness to the world that the love of God is above all other loves and that it is enough for them. There are also men and women in science, in politics and in other kinds of service who give themselves totally to their calling and who find happiness in the gift of themselves to this calling. Their fidelity to an ideal gives them deep personal satisfaction.
To forsake marriage for the Lord is a calling. Those who answer such a call live their lives just as fully and in complete happiness.
Certain people, however, who would have liked to get married, remain single. This is a hardship. Nevertheless, for every person there is a road to happiness. It may take some time to find it, but it exists. Often, the road is to be found in a generous heart and in openness towards others.
There are men and women who decide not to marry, not because they scorn or reject it but simply because they feel an exclusive call. For example, priests, monks and nuns witness to the world that the love of God is above all other loves and that it is enough for them. There are also men and women in science, in politics and in other kinds of service who give themselves totally to their calling and who find happiness in the gift of themselves to this calling. Their fidelity to an ideal gives them deep personal satisfaction.
To forsake marriage for the Lord is a calling. Those who answer such a call live their lives just as fully and in complete happiness.
Certain people, however, who would have liked to get married, remain single. This is a hardship. Nevertheless, for every person there is a road to happiness. It may take some time to find it, but it exists. Often, the road is to be found in a generous heart and in openness towards others.
How can we be sure that we really love someone?
We know from experience that it is difficult to be sure. We do not always see clearly. It is not easy, in every case, to be sure of myself or my feelings and to have to depend on tangible proofs or signs.
Love is not like an idea with a definition or like a physical phenomen on that can be measured : Love is a matter of choice. And so, to use a quotation from Saint Bonaventure : Love is its own measure and standard.
There are, however, certain practical points to consider :
Is it my friend that I love or is it the feeling of love that I love? We are so often overwhelmed by the extraordinary feeling that accompanies love that we may forget about the other person.
A good question to ask would be Do I want to love him or her? Since true love is not so much a feeling as it is a decision, a choice, we have to will to love.
Finally, love needs the response of the other to actually exist. We cannot speak of love if it is not reciprocated.If you are not sure of the others feelings, don’t remain in doubt. Find a good moment to speak together and find out the feelings and attitudes of the other.
Love is not like an idea with a definition or like a physical phenomen on that can be measured : Love is a matter of choice. And so, to use a quotation from Saint Bonaventure : Love is its own measure and standard.
There are, however, certain practical points to consider :
Is it my friend that I love or is it the feeling of love that I love? We are so often overwhelmed by the extraordinary feeling that accompanies love that we may forget about the other person.
A good question to ask would be Do I want to love him or her? Since true love is not so much a feeling as it is a decision, a choice, we have to will to love.
Finally, love needs the response of the other to actually exist. We cannot speak of love if it is not reciprocated.If you are not sure of the others feelings, don’t remain in doubt. Find a good moment to speak together and find out the feelings and attitudes of the other.
Thursday, September 8, 2011
Epstein-Barr virus
The Epstein–Barr virus (EBV), also called human herpesvirus 4 (HHV-4), is a virus of the herpes family, which includes herpes simplex virus 1 and 2, and is one of the most common viruses in humans. It is best known as the cause of infectious mononucleosis. It is also associated with particular forms of cancer, particularly Hodgkin's lymphoma, Burkitt's lymphoma, nasopharyngeal carcinoma, and central nervous system lymphomas associated with HIV.[1] Finally, there is evidence that infection with the virus is associated with a higher risk of certain autoimmune diseases, especially dermatomyositis[citation needed], systemic lupus erythematosus,[2][3] rheumatoid arthritis,[3] Sjögren's syndrome,[3] and multiple sclerosis.[4]
Most people become infected with EBV and gain adaptive immunity. In the United States, about half of all five-year-olds and 90–95% of adults have evidence of previous infection[citation needed]. Infants become susceptible to EBV as soon as maternal antibody protection disappears. Many children become infected with EBV, and these infections usually cause no symptoms or are indistinguishable from the other mild, brief illnesses of childhood. In the United States and in other developed countries, many people are not infected with EBV in their childhood years. When infection with EBV occurs during adolescence or teenage years, it causes infectious mononucleosis 35% to 69% of the time.
Most people become infected with EBV and gain adaptive immunity. In the United States, about half of all five-year-olds and 90–95% of adults have evidence of previous infection[citation needed]. Infants become susceptible to EBV as soon as maternal antibody protection disappears. Many children become infected with EBV, and these infections usually cause no symptoms or are indistinguishable from the other mild, brief illnesses of childhood. In the United States and in other developed countries, many people are not infected with EBV in their childhood years. When infection with EBV occurs during adolescence or teenage years, it causes infectious mononucleosis 35% to 69% of the time.
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